Christmas brings with it a certain sentimentality and expectation of tradition. Part of that tradition is the anticipation of spending time with our teenaged and college-aged children. But part of their growing up is also growing away and developing other friendships that will carry them through long after we are gone. After the dirty laundry that piled up during final exams is deposited, friends will call and a mad dash will be made for the door. The day after Christmas, they will be bored. What should we do?
First, sync everyone's plans and let the kids know when their attendance at family functions and social events is mandatory. That will help allay any miscommunication and get everyone where they are supposed to be on time and in good form.
Next, make sure your children's friends are welcome at your house. Have food on hand. Rent movies and video games. Make being at your house fun, that way the kids won't have to run away. You can also make it a tradition to take in a holiday movie with all the gang.
Never underestimate the power of being in a good mood. You can't be in a good mood all the time, but you can be aware of when your holiday passive-aggressiveness is about to show. Remain calm. Be happy - it's Christmas only once a year. Keep in mind what is important regardless of money or gifts that are the wrong size or color. Be mindful of when your expectations for perfection are overpowering being in the here and now. Help others keep perspective, too. It will improve everyone's holiday.
Finally, just go with the flow. They'll be home for Christmas, but only for a minute!! Enjoy it!! Merry Christmas and a happy, happy New Year!
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