I am always searching for good insight from professionals in the field of tween and teen relationships. Happened on this in the latest edition of "Tulsa Kids" by Claudia Arthell, ACSW, LCSW.
Definition of parenting that provides the essential needs for children.
We know they need:
* Warmth, shown by caring, responsiveness and acceptance (of who they are, not always what they do.)
* Monitoring of their activities and whereabouts, more at certain times than others.
* Good, solid discipline, often referred to as logical consequences, other times referred to as authoritative discipline: Setting age appropriate and clear limits, rules and expectations; firm, not aggressive, discipline that is consistent.
* A parent who can listen and talk, help with projects and homework, attend events and support endeavors.
Our children need good relationships with their parents, parental warmth and sibling support. Building trust and respect now will insure a less rocky transition as your child transforms to a tween, a teen and a young adult. Healthy parenting takes a plan, a method and lots of patience. Clear boundaries and defined structure - Love your child enough to make the positive changes to bring consistency and calm to your home. chrissie
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