Can I Have the Keys?

 Do you have a teen who is getting ready to drive? If so, does the idea of handing the keys over to your teen terrify you?  What follows is a test to determine how safe a driver your eager sixteen-year-old is.  Its a nice way to evaluate how your family is addressing the issue.  The premise? Driving should not just be a given.  It should be a an earned privilege. Parenting with Love and Logic's Dr Charles Fay offers the simple quiz and then, the rationale behind each question.

Too many of our children are injured or killed as they drive on America's roads.
Last year more than 3,500 teenage drivers were killed and 344,000 were injured in accidents, according to the National Highway and Transportation Safety Administration. Have you ever wondered how safe a driver your teenager really is? Take the following test to see if your child is safe behind the wheel:

My teen paid for at least half of the cost of his/her vehicle and insurance.	True	False
My teen uses my car and has made a deposit into my savings account equal to the insurance deductible.	True	False
My teen is respectful and follows the rules of our home and his/her school.	True	False
My teen handles frustrations well. He/she does not lose his/her temper easily.	True	False

If you answered "False" to one or more of these questions, your teenager may not be as safe a driver as you thought. The good news is that it isn't too late to take three steps that may save his or her life — and the lives of others.

Life-Saver #1
Make sure your child makes a meaningful financial contribution to his or her driving privilege.
Kids take much better care of their cars — and drive much more carefully — when they have spent a significant amount of their own money purchasing them or paying for insurance. Using an appropriate amount of empathy, a parent might say:
Feel free to drive when you have enough money to pay for at least half of your own car and half of your insurance.
Feel free to use the family car when we don't need it and you've made a deposit into our savings account equal to the insurance deductible.
Life-Saver #2
Make it possible for your teen to drive only when you know he or she respects the rules at home and at school.
If teenagers do not respect their family or school rules, what are the chances they will respect the rules of the road? Parents need to say:
When I know that you are ready to follow rules at home and at school, then I'll feel more comfortable that you will follow them out on the road. Then it will be time for you to drive.
Life Saver #3
Before driving, your teen must show he or she can handle frustration without losing his/her temper.
Kids who easily lose their tempers at home are sure to lose them behind the wheel and become part of the "road rage" epidemic. With this type of child, a parent can say (without using any sarcasm):
When I know that you handle your frustrations without throwing a fit, I will know you are ready to handle the frustrations of driving without doing something you will be sorry for later.

Love and Logic is designed to help parents raise responsible kids who are prepared to make smart choices about serious issues. Parents around the world are applying these practical strategies and finding they sleep much easier at night. 

Sleep Easier?  With a teen out and about driving, that would be a welcome outcome.  Chrissie

A Rite of Passage?

It's a right of passage. Driver's Ed. Learner's Permit. And at 16, the Driver's License!!!! It's a given. 16? Here are the keys to your car.

It is certainly more convenient. There is no rationing of who gets the family car. No whining. Your teen can get where he needs to go without you. He can run errands and help with the younger family members. There is no more car-pooling or late night pick-ups. It's so much easier. However, with the convenience, comes risk.

Did you know traffic accidents are the leading cause of death for American teenagers, killing 5,000 teens-and injuring 250,000-every year. But there's a simple way to cut down on the danger. Scientists say: Don't give kids their own car.

In a study of 5,500 teens, researchers at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia found that 25 percent of kids who had their own cars or the free use of one had been involved in a crash, whereas just 10 percent of teens who shared the family car had suffered an accident. Researchers found that kids with their own car or keys gain a "sense of entitlement about driving" that renders then less cautious and more arrogant behind the wheel.

Additionally, the Philadelphia study found that teens with parents who set clear rules and kept tabs on their whereabouts had half as many crashes, were 71% less likely to drive drunk, and 30% less likely to drive while using the cell phone.

So, inconvenient as it is, it seems that the safest decision a family can make if for parents to control access to the car keys. Just as we baby proofed the house when they were small, we must continue to follow through on their well-being and safety as our children begin to drive. It's important. It could save their life. chrissie

Baby, Can I Drive The Car?

It's a right of passage. Driver's Ed. Learner's Permit. And at 16, the Driver's License!!!! It's a given. 16? Here are the keys to your car.

It is certainly more convenient. There is no rationing of who gets the family car. No whining. Your teen can get where he needs to go without you. He can run errands and help with the younger family members. There is no more car-pooling or late night pick-ups. It's so much easier. However, with the convenience, comes risk.

Did you know traffic accidents are the leading cause of death for American teenagers, killing 5,000 teens-and injuring 250,000-every year. But there's a simple way to cut down on the danger. Scientists say: Don't give kids their own car.

In a study of 5,500 teens, researchers at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia found that 25 percent of kids who had their own cars or the free use of one had been involved in a crash, whereas just 10 percent of teens who shared the family car had suffered an accident. Researchers found that kids with their own car or keys gain a "sense of entitlement about driving" that renders then less cautious and more arrogant behind the wheel.

Additionally, the Philadelphia study found that teens with parents who set clear rules and kept tabs on their whereabouts had half as many crashes, were 71% less likely to drive drunk, and 30% less likely to drive while using the cell phone.

So, inconvenient as it is, it seems that the safest decision a family can make if for parents to control access to the car keys. Just as we baby proofed the house when they were small, we must continue to follow through on their well-being and safety as our children begin to drive. It's important. It could save their life. chrissie